MAXAMEYES;519752 said:The number of reasons is equal to the number of people. And just as varied.
True love is not disrespectful...rakas;519751 said:...I've never understood how you can claim to love somebody and cheat or be in an open relationship, i view that as a rejection of love from/to you/her.
Threak-X;520201 said:True love is not disrespectful...
Actually, I view it differently, she has enough commitment to you, respect for you, and trust in you to communicate her sexual desires/needs instead of going behind your back. It's hurtful to hear, but the emotional/mental pain isn't as severe as if you found out after the fact. Personally, I would explore her missing needs and reasons for seeking out another man sexually. Communication is one key factor in a healthy relationship, letting each other know what is going on inside.rakas;520256 said:But thats the point, for my wife to ask if she can sleep with another man i would view as a rejection/i'm not good enough to satisfy her myself, equally for her to let me i would view as she did not care enough.
Threak-X;520272 said:Actually, I view it differently, she has enough commitment to you, respect for you, and trust in you to communicate her sexual desires/needs instead of going behind your back. It's hurtful to hear, but the emotional/mental pain isn't as severe as if you found out after the fact. Personally, I would explore her missing needs and reasons for seeking out another man sexually. Communication is one key factor in a healthy relationship, letting each other know what is going on inside.
I'm not one to judge a person's choice of consensual sexual life-style, nor am I one to deny my significant other her happiness of choices, but it doesn't mean I have to like it and live with it. The choices one makes affect the others in a relationship and should be up for discussion from all parties involved before making a finally decision. This allows everyone to have a choice in the matter affecting the relationship and the possible outcome(s) from it.
Threak-X;520272 said:Actually, I view it differently, she has enough commitment to you, respect for you, and trust in you to communicate her sexual desires/needs instead of going behind your back. It's hurtful to hear, but the emotional/mental pain isn't as severe as if you found out after the fact. Personally, I would explore her missing needs and reasons for seeking out another man sexually. Communication is one key factor in a healthy relationship, letting each other know what is going on inside.
I'm not one to judge a person's choice of consensual sexual life-style, nor am I one to deny my significant other her happiness of choices, but it doesn't mean I have to like it and live with it. The choices one makes affect the others in a relationship and should be up for discussion from all parties involved before making a finally decision. This allows everyone to have a choice in the matter affecting the relationship and the possible outcome(s) from it.
rakas;520339 said:I have no issue with the communication of such desires be it saying that she wants something kinky or even that she fancies the ass off somebody but to actually act on a desire to have intercourse with somebody else takes it a step too far and i couldn't ever see myself in a position where i would willingly accept my mate having sex with another guy. I also don't see why it should be discussed as a practical outcome, if a girl was to ask me if she could have sex elsewhere, i would quite simply say "not a chance".
MAXAMEYES;520418 said:A whole lot depends on the mutual expectations each brought into the relationship, and how freely they were expressed.
rakas;520339 said:I have no issue with the communication of such desires be it saying that she wants something kinky or even that she fancies the ass off somebody but to actually act on a desire to have intercourse with somebody else takes it a step too far and i couldn't ever see myself in a position where i would willingly accept my mate having sex with another guy. I also don't see why it should be discussed as a practical outcome, if a girl was to ask me if she could have sex elsewhere, i would quite simply say "not a chance".
rebel2011;520443 said:....I mean don't you want your lover to have the most pleasure out of life?
MikeShlort;520447 said:No. I want her there to cook my meals, clean my skid marks, paint the house, bring me a beer and let me unload my balls in her holes. And if she cheats, I'll beat her like a cop beats a minority.
rakas you are entitled to the type of relationship you want to fulfill your happiness as well as your mate/spouse. You're open to the communication of it, but under no circumstances open to the actual act of it, fair enough. If she has no respect (love) for your wishes, concerns, she will commit infidelity whether you know about it or not. The communication is important because everyone should be aware of the possible negative outcome/affect to the relationship. Ultimately, the decision is hers, rationally discussing your side with her about your feelings, reasons, and consequences to the relationship gives her more to make an informative decision. Also, it allows you have a choice to live with it or not if she goes through with it. You shouldn't deny her of happiness, you have to trust her to enough to make the right decision for the relationship. These are the testing/trying times to a relationship that will either create a stronger bond working through it or dissolve the bond down to nothing.rakas;520339 said:I have no issue with the communication of such desires be it saying that she wants something kinky or even that she fancies the ass off somebody but to actually act on a desire to have intercourse with somebody else takes it a step too far and i couldn't ever see myself in a position where i would willingly accept my mate having sex with another guy. I also don't see why it should be discussed as a practical outcome, if a girl was to ask me if she could have sex elsewhere, i would quite simply say "not a chance".
She sounds like a Truck-Driver's Dream Woman, especially making her paint the house when you're on the road. (LoL)MikeShlort;520447 said:No. I want her there to cook my meals, clean my skid marks, paint the house, bring me a beer and let me unload my balls in her holes. And if she cheats, I'll beat her like a cop beats a minority.
rebel2011;520443 said:I feel it is a pride thing more than a love or trust issue. If you can't give a woman the pleasure she could have then why would you deprive someone you love of experiencing better sex? That's like saying you can't eat pizza hut because your wife cooked a crappy meal. IMO having open communication about lacking sex life could save more relationships than hurt.
It is human nature to want different partners. If its from not knowing what sex with a different person is like or just having a sexual preference that the person can't or won't fill. I'm not saying anyone should have sex with somoen other than their partner but if you truely loved them it would be better than actually getting cheated on or being dumped.
There would be huge repercussions to letting someone into a relationship sexually and I don't think you could ever understand until it happens. You would have to have an enormous amount of trust but in theory it could work....I mean don't you want your lover to have the most pleasure out of life?
^ No Lot LizardsThreak-X;520454 said:She sounds like a Truck-Driver's Dream Woman, especially making her paint the house when you're on the road. (LoL)