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Thanks Zam. You took that well. I knew you would bro. That's one of the things I like about you. You're a good friend and I didn't take that fir granted but I did know you could take that well.
My experience with 12 step groups of 3 different kinds, marriage help peer group program, divorce after care peer group, lodge work and now I'm getting into FPU financial program with an accountability group... people don't appreciate arm chair quarterbacks of their life and family. The advisor has nothing invested here so if their theories fail the test no loss to them, they got no dog in the fight... What people do appreciate is sharing from ones own personal experience.
O, "in my family, my parents did this... Xyz.. in my relationship .." and "what I think I would choose to do for myself if that happened to me is..."
Those kinds of statements are welcome, well, if asked for input they are... Going into telling someone what decisions to make in their marriage, kids involved especily... that's beyond the line in any setting I've experienced. That's what I meant.
I've decided Im not going to say what I would do personally in this situation, I'm saying if nmg wants to try I respect that and offer some sources of support that might help. My default from my Biblical/Catholic belief system is to support the marriage if at least one wants to try. Nmg you say you want to try so I'm passing on those two groups from my XP that there are people who've suffered what you have and found healing in their marriage from those groups.
My experience with 12 step groups of 3 different kinds, marriage help peer group program, divorce after care peer group, lodge work and now I'm getting into FPU financial program with an accountability group... people don't appreciate arm chair quarterbacks of their life and family. The advisor has nothing invested here so if their theories fail the test no loss to them, they got no dog in the fight... What people do appreciate is sharing from ones own personal experience.
O, "in my family, my parents did this... Xyz.. in my relationship .." and "what I think I would choose to do for myself if that happened to me is..."
Those kinds of statements are welcome, well, if asked for input they are... Going into telling someone what decisions to make in their marriage, kids involved especily... that's beyond the line in any setting I've experienced. That's what I meant.
I've decided Im not going to say what I would do personally in this situation, I'm saying if nmg wants to try I respect that and offer some sources of support that might help. My default from my Biblical/Catholic belief system is to support the marriage if at least one wants to try. Nmg you say you want to try so I'm passing on those two groups from my XP that there are people who've suffered what you have and found healing in their marriage from those groups.
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