doublelongdaddy said:
A big flaccid size in the company of men gives us a sense of power. A potentially large penis is almost territorial and somehow it establishes a primitive order of male dominance. In contrast a massive soft size in the company of woman initiates a different feeling of power, one of individual sexual conquest...a personal foreplay.
But non-the-less, a large flaccid size is sometimes treasured more than a massive erect size. First impressions with woman when soft or massive rumors in the male lockeroom when the boys see you with a large flaccid size, it all adds to male confidence.
To say this does not matter is dishonest. I think that most men, whether their erect size be 5" or 10", they would prefer their flaccid size to be the same. Is it possible? I know it is. I have done the routines that allow this to happen (Ace Wrapped, Lazy Ass, etc.) and I have seen my flaccid size come close to my erect.
I think it is really hard on guys, personally, socially or sexually to have a small (or perceived small) flaccid size. Regardless of it's erect size, the initial soft impression we have in the lockeroom, bedroom, etc. is what we believe others judge us by and, in most cases, what we judge ourselves by.
A bit off topic, but I think allot of guys tickle their sack to get a fat semi-hard penis when naked in the company of other people.
This is probably one of the central reasons of me getting into Penis Enlargement. I had always had a 3" softie, which grew to 7 inches long when hard, but that, I think, is at the "bottom of average" when it comes to flaccid length, even though I was "large" when it came to erect length. I was such a bigger guy compared to everyone else in basketball and such, thus my 3" didn't look like much at all on me. Shit, even when I did have a nice 6" hang going because I was somewhat horny, it STILL doesn't give the effect that a 5" does on a 5'10" average build guy.
Most uneducated guys think that soft size determines hard size, and judge someone's potential penis size based on how much they themselves grow from soft to hard.
It seems most girls know that dicks can grow, at least those who have had at least a few partners. I flashed a girl at Spring Break last year, and it was probably about 3 1/2, maybe 4" long at the most (I was so plastered.) She just smiled at me and said "you know, it's not like I'm going to see your penis hard, why should I get excited?" She had obviously had a grower experience in the past. It was pretty cool to hear that from a chick, too, who knew that flaccid size didn't determine erect size.
Honestly, if I rubbed a lamp and a magic genie came out and told me (assuming this is in the future when I have gained to 9") that I could trade 1" in erect length and be back at 8" and have a 7.5" flaccid, I don't know what I'd choose. Length gains, especially flaccid gains, have always been harder for me to get than girth. I swear it seems I'll gain in EL but I'll still have that 4" flaccid when walking around in normal situations.
My flaccid size is probably the #1 thing I'd want to have change right now if I had to pick. It's all about the first impression, especially with women who tend to oversensualize about size.
Also, is it me or am I the only guy in the world whose penis shrinks when it is in water of any king (even warm or hot)?