This is true. You should never chase them. There have been the times when good women have come into my life (but I was not ready). I was not chasing, they just wanted to come into my life. I can let a good woman come into my life right now. But do I want to give so much of myself up to this woman? If I sacrifice my important life goals for her, I do not believe it's worth it. Maybe I'm to hard on myself, and this is preventing me from living..But I know men that should not have been married (getting into a serious relationship) before they really had worked on themselves.