pitbull;280019 said:
im about 5 inches long and wanted to ask the others that are this size about sex. i dont have sex because im afraid the girl will laugh and leave, alos i have premature ejac. but i wanted to know do the 5 inch people have sex and regularly? i wanna know what the experiences have been like as far as size is concerened and how the girls have reacted when they saw your penis. i have tried to overcome my fear but the thought of being mocked for my size by a girl well i wouldnt be albe to bear it.
its really not about what the girl thinks at all, its about what you think. Its easier to place the emotion on outside people or think they are cause for anxiety, but it is from within.. so until you can accept yourself then in your mind no one else will either. Let me stress it is your reality and is your experience, internally you may hav this penis size anxiety... but you are the one causing it on yourself. no one else. not that its something to eb ashamed off, just to let you know that it is in your control and its your responsibility to maintain your own mental health and no one elses...
also.. about the mental thing, we have a way of manifesting our fears. its called a self fullfilling prophecy: you think you will perform bad, you think your penis is gonna be small or limp etc etc,.. then guess what happens when you geti n that situation with woman? you get so anxiety that you cant get it up or pop off too fast... thats how it works. Im not saying to be delusional, but it wouldnt be that bad of an idea to give yourself a break and stop talkign down on yourself. Shit, why not tell yourself " My dick is huge and women love me, im the best they ever have in bed or ever will have"... you might be surprised with the results that come form a positive attitude.. you might actully be able to relax for a second and enjoy the moments you have, because i tell you...in a sexuall situation the only one who is going to be focusing and worring and judging your penis is most likely you... and its possible to ruin the time for everyone. Im telling from experience as well and knowing women: women (in 99%) of the cases arent going to bed wiht you becaue they think your penis is huge and they arent going to leave you because they tthink its tiny...i would say that if its love that 100 percent of the time the woman love you regardelss...
it really is a big part of how you work it, and i dont nessicarilly mean the actually motions of your cock. But it couldnt hurt to go ahead and treat your dick likes its huge.... if you treat yourself negativly and you cant get over yourself, liek i said.. the woman will pick up on it too and you will probably manifest your fears adn ruin the time and feell shame and embarasment... when you dont have to and more importantly you SHOULDNT HAVE TO AND THERE IS NO NEED to feel shame about your own body regardless of size. Its called self esteem for a reason, it comes form within yourself and yourself only. If you need to other-esteem and get it from other people it will never work because it will never be enough and it will never be in your control and the effects just are not the same... its fleeting and you will always chase it. When its inside its always with you. Acceptance really is key and yesit really is hard to do, and no i have not fully accepted myself. All of life is about growth though, its a journey etc etc...,
Anyway, noones perfect at this. No one is in the perfect mental state all the time, we all feel shame, guilt anxiety etc.